5 Myths About Having It All -- Myth #5 Having It All Will Make Us Happy

In today's society, there is a pervading pressure to have it all and be it all -- the career, the physical fitness, the hot significant, the angel children, the pristine house, the sense of purpose and certainty in our own skin, the volunteer work, etc.

We are expected to wake up, meditate, get a run in, cook and eat a healthy breakfast consisting of locally grown organic food, get the kids ready for school, watch the news to be well-informed, dress to the nines, work a grueling 12 hour day, somehow be home in time to resume our parent of the year duties, which include preparing a delicious, healthy meal for the kids, helping them with their homework, bathtime, playtime, bedtime, all the while being fully engaged, then clean up the entire house, do dishes and laundry, spend time with our significant other to keep the romance alive, work on our side passions, read a good book, and get 8 hours of sleep. You have just read one of the longest run-on sentences ever created -- I'm tired just thinking about it. What about you?

Here is the fifth and final myth about having it all that we need to dismantle for the sake of our sanity --

5) Having it all will make us happy.

We live a country whose culture has convinced us that, if we have it all, we will be happy. Poof! Instant happiness. It reminds me of that George Clooney movie, Up in the Air. He is in pursuit of meeting a crazy airline miles goal. He finally hits that goal, gets what he thinks he's always wanted. Come to find out, it was anti-climactic. I wonder how much of the stuff we are chasing would prove to be anti-climactic for us. 

Truth: Having it all won't make you happy. A grateful attitude will. 

I remember my old boss, Sergio George, once said that having more won't mean anything if you can't handle and appreciate what you have now. There was a certain artist on our roster at the time who wanted bigger shows (because bigger shows = more revenue). However, the artist just wasn't at that level yet. SG taught me that it's not the quantity of stuff that matters -- it's our mindset. A grateful heart will eventually give way to a great filled life. 

Soul Work: Time to get grateful.

For every thing that you think you feel you currently lack, come up with something you do have. For example, "I don't have a boyfriend AND I have a kick-ass tribe of fantastic women that I'm able to call friends." OR "I'm not in shape to run a marathon AND I can dance the hell out of a Zumba class." Balance your thoughts of lack with your thoughts of abundance. Nothing is too small. Get very specific. 

Note: Having a goal gives life meaning. I'm all about setting your sights on big things. I believe you deserve them. However, if you don't stop to smell the roses on your road to greatness, you will miss out on a lifetime of magical moments. 

Your soul is rooting for you and so am I.

Namasté,

Yogi Tish

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5 Myths About Having It All -- Myth #4 Having It All Means That We Will Never Struggle Again

In today's society, there is a pervading pressure to have it all and be it all -- the career, the physical fitness, the hot significant, the angel children, the pristine house, the sense of purpose and certainty in our own skin, the volunteer work, etc.

We are expected to wake up, meditate, get a run in, cook and eat a healthy breakfast consisting of locally grown organic food, get the kids ready for school, watch the news to be well-informed, dress to the nines, work a grueling 12 hour day, somehow be home in time to resume our parent of the year duties, which include preparing a delicious, healthy meal for the kids, helping them with their homework, bathtime, playtime, bedtime, all the while being fully engaged, then clean up the entire house, do dishes and laundry, spend time with our significant other to keep the romance alive, work on our side passions, read a good book, and get 8 hours of sleep. You have just read one of the longest run-on sentences ever created -- I'm tired just thinking about it. What about you?

Here is the fourth of 5 myths about having it all that we need to dismantle for the sake of our sanity --

4) Having it all means that we will never struggle again. 

Don't you just hate it when you see someone who seems to have his or her shit together? Here you are barely making it (the baby was up all night and you got 3 hours of sleep) and this person is put together, perky, and playing big. The nerve! It's so easy to see the seeming success of others and just spiral into "I suck. They rock" mode. Once we have it all, we'll never struggle again. It'll be all sunshine and roses. We'll be the put together, perky ones with perfect hair.

Truth: Everyone poops.

My apologies for the crassness -- what can I say? I'm a Sagittarius. No one lives life 100% struggle free, no matter how perfect their life seems from the outside looking in. That person you see at work who is making shit happen may feel like the world's worst parent at home -- he or she is so busy at the office that Lil' Johnny has yet to see his or her face at his soccer games. Or that stay at home mom who volunteers for everything at school and rocks all the PTA events is compensating for the sheer loneliness of an always working husband.

People rarely show us what's under the hood. Oftentimes, we are all just getting by with the pressures of having the career, the significant other, the kids, the house, etc. 

Soul Work: Talk about it.

I think that envy is a useless feeling and deserves a major re-frame. Other people show us what is possible for ourselves. Instead letting envy fester in the darkness, stand out in the sunshine by asking the person in question the reason for their success. What are their best practices? Don't be hard-headed. Learn from them. You might also make a friend in the process. It's when you get out of your comfort zone and get vulnerable that the universe has an opportunity to bless you. 

Your soul is rooting for you and so am I.

Namasté,

Yogi Tish

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