In today's society, there is a pervading pressure to have it all and be it all -- the career, the physical fitness, the hot significant, the angel children, the pristine house, the sense of purpose and certainty in our own skin, the volunteer work, etc.
We are expected to wake up, meditate, get a run in, cook and eat a healthy breakfast consisting of locally grown organic food, get the kids ready for school, watch the news to be well-informed, dress to the nines, work a grueling 12 hour day, somehow be home in time to resume our parent of the year duties, which include preparing a delicious, healthy meal for the kids, helping them with their homework, bathtime, playtime, bedtime, all the while being fully engaged, then clean up the entire house, do dishes and laundry, spend time with our significant other to keep the romance alive, work on our side passions, read a good book, and get 8 hours of sleep. You have just read one of the longest run-on sentences ever created -- I'm tired just thinking about it. What about you?
Here is the third of 5 myths about having it all that we need to dismantle for the sake of our sanity --
3) People will love, accept, and approve of me once I have it all.
I'm always leary of the conditional -- the "Once I get ___, ___ will happen." We often falsely think that once we reach a certain level of success, possessions, money, etc., that people (family, friends, perfect strangers, etc.) will finally come around to accepting and approving of us. Human beings are social creatures. We long for community and connection. It downright sucks when people that we want to connect with reject or think that we aren't good enough for them.
I know I'm gonna sound like my mamita when I say the following -- If someone only wants to rock with you because of what you've got, what you've done, who you know, etc., you need to stay far away from them. They aren't your people. The people that love you when you're down, love you when you're up, when you're at your best, and definitely when you're at your worst -- THOSE are the people that you want in your corner. Cherish them and hold onto them with a fierceness.
Truth: You are so much more than your resume.
I repeat: you are so much more than your resume. You deserve to have people in your life that believe that and speak that into your life. If you're constantly focused on the people who don't know you're alive or who will conditionally accept you once you have it all, you miss out on the real ones right in front of your face.
Soul Work: Think about who is part of your tribe.
Your soul is rooting for you and so am I.